5 Tips to The Best Wedding Ever

Nov 9

This blog coincides with 8 years of wedding planning and wedding floral creation for hundreds of clients!

After years of work, I’m taking time to reflect and give to you 5 tips to the best wedding ever.

#1 Tip to the Best Wedding Ever: Set an intention.

If you haven’t read “The Art of Gathering: How we Meet and Why it Matters” by Priya Parker, I would strongly suggest reading it now.

Priya walks you through some simple ideas of how to make the most memorable event for you and your guests. One of those tenants is setting an intention.

This intention can help guide you through your wedding planning process. Once you set an intention, each decision you make can be checked with this intention in mind.

For example if the intention you set for your wedding is “honor family” then it’s a no-brainer when deciding who to cross off the invite list. Cousins, check. Neighbor lady, nix. Etc.

Or if your intention is “connection”. Each aspect of your wedding, you can ask yourself - is this detail fostering connection with my guests? Or, how can I make my wedding more of a chance to connect individually with each person?

It’s important to remember that there’s no right or wrong intention. You get to decide.

In case you’re feeling a little stuck, here are a few intentions for you to mull over:

fun,
magic,
friends come first,
celebrate Alaskan beauty,
easygoing,
relaxed,
welcoming,
honor each person,
celebrate us, etc.

#2 Tip to the Best Wedding Ever: Put your money towards what really matters to you.

Is food the most important part for you? Go all in on the best caterer and book them early.

Is the feeling of you surroundings the most important? Go all in on intentional decorations.

Is honoring people important to you? Write everyone a personalized thank you letter and/or give toasts to some of your most honored guests.

Not sure what really matters to you? If you’re feeling stuck, you can always check back with that intention you set. If your intention is “honoring family”, then you will definitely get all the moms a corsage. And you’ll make ample time to toast those family members in your life.

#3 Tip to the Best Wedding Ever: Set realistic expectations.

Most of us are brimming with good ideas. In reality though, we have finite time and energy to put into any one place.

Be realistic about what your spending plan can do and what your time can create.

Ask for help where needed and be as real as possible about what to expect of yourself, your guests and your bank account.

Professionals in the wedding industry know best what things actually cost. Enlist a good wedding pro (florist, planner, venue) in helping you come up with realistic expectations.

Don’t be afraid to spend extra on professional help in order to free yourself up for this once (or twice) in a lifetime experience.

I put in the “twice” there because I serve a lot of second marriages.

Second and third marriages are a celebration of our long and varied lives, our changing selves and evolving circumstances.

#4 Tip to the Best Wedding Ever: Delegate, hire out, and ask for help.

You cannot do it all.

Planning your wedding is excellent practice in delegating and asking for help. It might be useful to list out everything that needs to be done and then keep all the aspects you personally want to do because those tasks actually bring you joy. Release everything else to someone else who would love to do them or who just wants to help.

Don’t be scared of enlisting a professional. Professionals are there for a reason - they do a lot of those wedding tasks for their work. They have loads of experience. They know all the questions to ask. They know all the details to keep in mind when working through a project.

In my opinion, the benefit of hiring out far outweighs the cost.

#5 Tip to the Best Wedding Ever: Manage your Mindset.

Mindset is everything.

The way you think about your wedding can make it the best, happiest, most carefree day of your life or the most stressful day of your life.

A rainy wedding day for one couple might break their spirit whereas it might be a sign from the heavens for another couple.

You are in charge of how you think, feel and act on a day to day basis

Create a personal mantra in order to be your best, happiest self on your wedding day.

#6 Tip to the Best Wedding Ever: Bonus Tip

Your wedding day can be a pinnacle experience.

Don’t worry if after your wedding, there’s a period of low energy, emptiness or even unhappiness. Our inner lives are rich with emotions. And after a period of busy-ness and anticipation there can be a low point.

Honor your feelings by journaling, talking openly about them and letting the emotional sensation in your body just be.

Start planning your flowers here!

Greta Lewanski